Widowed & Young – helping young widows and widowers cope with life after death

Losing a loved one at any age is incredibly difficult, and the sudden death of a partner at a young age can be particularly challenging. In this blog, Widowed & Young chairman Georgia Elms talks about the support that the charity was able to offer her following the sudden death of her husband. 

Georgia Elms’ life was turned upside down when her husband Jon died suddenly from meningitis, at the age of just 38.

“Jon went to bed feeling unwell, and woke in the middle of the night a lot worse, so I rang for an ambulance – but by morning he’d died,” says Georgia. “It was two weeks after our daughter Daisy’s first birthday. And the day after his death, I found out I was pregnant with our second child.”

Although Georgia was surrounded by friends and family, she felt utterly alone.

“I didn’t know anyone else who was in my situation. Nobody around me understood what I was going through,” she says. “I just needed to meet other people and talk to other people who’d been widowed at a young age. I needed to have reassurance that the things I was feeling were normal.”

For Georgia, the charity WAY (Widowed & Young) offered a lifeline – linking her up with other men and women who had been widowed at a young age, and who understood exactly what she was going through.

“Just talking to people who had been widowed and were further down the line than me made me feel better,” she recalls.

With a young daughter to look after and a second baby on the way, Georgia turned to WAY’s online forums in the evenings for company and support, reading posts from other people and realising that she was not alone in her grief. Through WAY, Georgia was able to link up with other women who had also been widowed while they were pregnant.

Eventually, she plucked up the courage to organise a get together for local members in Nottingham, and over the next few years she developed a new social circle through WAY.

“We went out for a meal, – then met up once a month after that. When my daughters were a bit older, I started going on some of the organised WAY holidays,” she says.

“My children love their new WAY ‘family’ and always look forward to meeting their WAY friends who allow them to feel normal,” says Georgia, who has been chairman of the charity since 2011.

Finding a way forward

WAY turns 20 this year and has more than 2,300 members across England, Scotland, Wales and Northern Ireland. For many widowed men and women, the lively social groups that meet up throughout the year – for drinks, meals out, walks and picnics – offer the chance to build up a new social life in the aftermath of bereavement. In the last year alone, WAY members have been walking in the Lake District, caravanning in Dorset, camping in Derbyshire and skiing in France over the New Year.

WAY also has a well-used members-only website, with a secure online forum that allows members across the country to post their comments in a safe environment, where others can offer advice and mutual support. Members also have access to a 24-hour confidential telephone helpline, which provides access to counselling and advice.

WAY is often described as a club that nobody wants to join. But the sad reality is that around 80,000 men and women in the UK are widowed under the age of 51 and could benefit so much from WAY’s peer-to-peer support.

Visit our website at www.widowedandyoung.org.uk to find out more about WAY.
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About the author

Vicky Anning has over a decade of experience in charity communications, and is currently Communications Manager at the support charity Widowed & Young (WAY). Prior to her position at WAY, Vicky also has worked on projects for UNICEF, international NGO Camfed and the Catholic international development charity CAFOD. Alongside holding various positions in the third sector, Vicky also has experience in journalism and working as a book editor.